- Tijana Coso
Who’s Leading Who? The Unconscious Mind and Positive Behavioral Changes
Updated: Dec 20, 2021
How long have you been putting off or saying “no” to something that you know would help take your career to the next level? How many times have you criticized yourself for procrastinating, or judged your work for not being good enough?
Often times we play this unconscious rhetoric in the background of our lives, creating a downward spiral that no amount of willpower or well-developed SMART goals can reroute.
When you are exhausted trying to battle with your self-defeating attitudes and behaviors, there may be more working against you than a bad attitude. Neuroscientists suggest that 95% of human behavior is led by the unconscious, which could be causing your battles with procrastination, perfectionism, and other negative behavior patterns that you just can’t seem to shake.
Your unconscious is in the driver’s seat of your life. What does that mean for you? Compared to the conscious mind, which is innovative, eager to take in new information, and incorporates SMART goals for success; the unconscious mind acts like a voicemail system, replaying unwanted messages from your past over and over again. So, while you (with your conscious mind) are continuously trying to make positive changes, your unconscious mind has a death grip on beliefs that have been replaying in your mind reinforcing unhealthy behavioral patterns that keep you stuck.
The million-dollar question is, how do we talk to our unconscious to find out what it believes so that we can retrain it? Sound a little “New Age-y?” Well it’s not, it’s a technique I use in all of my training programs that is science and researched-based.
The fact is that the secrets to change and success we’re all looking for boil down to our own patterns of thought that we continually play out in our life. The good news is that our attitudes and habits can be retrained. But it isn’t by years of therapy or another “how to” book or seminar. It is through Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), a life-changing skill that I added to my toolbox when I went through a trauma. Not only is EFT ideal for managing bodily anxiety and stress, but it also enables a person to uncover unconscious mental blocks that lead to procrastination and perfectionism. Ultimately, leading life with a newfound clarity and ability to achieve goals effortlessly.
So the next time you feel like you just can’t change your habits and become a better you, consider who (or what) is really in the driver’s seat of your destiny. You’ve tried books, you’ve tried workshops and videos… give Emotional Freedom Technique a shot. What do you have to lose besides a couple of bad habits?